Maintaining the right attitude is essential, because in life you never truly lose: you either win or you learn. What we often label as failure is, in reality, a lesson filled with valuable teachings—some more difficult than others. True growth does not come from success, but from every setback we overcome.

I went through my divorce. During that time, I felt that it was the greatest failure of my life. I had been married for fourteen years. We also had two young children. It took me time to shed that sense of defeat in my emotional life. I even tried to start a new relationship. But, my attachment to the past was the main reason it didn’t work. I was still burdened by the bitter feeling that I hadn’t done everything possible to save my marriage.

Today, ten years after my divorce and at fifty years of age, I find myself single once again. I have not begun another relationship. This time, though, I am giving myself the time I once neglected to take. I am allowing myself time to heal old wounds. I am also reconnecting with myself physically, mentally, and spiritually. I no longer see my marriage or my divorce as a failure. Instead, I view them as the hardest lessons I was meant to learn. I hold onto the good memories we shared as a family. I prepare myself for what lies ahead. I am convinced that life always offers new opportunities. Each day is a gift from God—an opportunity to change course and grow.